A few years ago, when His Holiness the Dalai Lama was visiting my city, a friend commented aloud in one of my social circles, “It’s easy to be calm and happy if you’re a monk and not have to worry about a mortgage and bills, a difficult husband and teenagers with all their issues…”
I had to smile and asked, “Do you happen to know the Dalai Lama’s life story? and the history or happenings of his people and country, Tibet?” to which she replied, “Um… no not really.”
“Well, if you were driven out of your home country for over 50 years, having to live in exile, plus having to watch your people massacred and oppressed, while still holding strong for a peaceful solution – all in line with your truth of love and compassion… I think I would much rather be one dealt with a mortgage, bills, difficult husband and frightful teenagers!”
My point in sharing this is to highlight the fact that regardless of who you are in this physical life (even if you’re the Dalai Lama) you will be subjected to the whole fabric of human experience. You will be confronted with challenges, feel all range of emotions, fall and blunder, pick yourself up and sometimes even reach the point of complete resignation.
The difference is if you are centered and aligned with your true and higher self, you will honor and embrace all the rawness of life as a gift. Stumbling blocks are your stepping stones to growth and expansion. Sufferings are your purging gates into transformation. Embracing your humanness is your natural impulse.
As spiritual folks on our aspiring spiritual paths, we may also fall into the trap of being too pious or idealistic. We may tend to be too quick in judging others and ourselves. In being totally devoted to our spiritual practice and trying to live true to all teachings, we may forget that we’re actually still a human being.
We may perceive that to be spiritual we are required to be this perpetual stoic Buddha unmoved by any turbulence whatsoever. To do such would be to dishonor the gift of why we’ve chosen to become manifested here in the first place, to experience.
You’ve chosen to be a human being for a reason. So allow yourself to feel pain as much as joy, cry till your heart wrenches as much as laugh till your belly hurts, fall short and make ‘mistakes’ so you can learn to pick up and move on, release angry steam out of your nostrils as much as levitate off your yoga mat in calmness. These array of experiences are the key to the expansion of your heart and growth of your soul.
True spirituality is the wisdom of integrating your higher reality into living this physical life journey with mindfulness. It’s applying your wisdom in allowing, flowing and alchemizing all range of experiences in alignment with your higher truth.
Here’s an excerpt when Time Magazine interviewed His Holiness the Dalai Lama:
Question: Do you ever feel angry or outraged? —Kantesh Guttal, PUNE, INDIA
His Holiness: Oh, yes, of course. I’m a human being. Generally speaking, if a human being never shows anger, then I think something’s wrong. He’s not right in the brain. [Laughs.]
So dear beautiful soul, go gentler with yourself, hold yourself with compassion, and know that you’re not any more or less, if you embrace your full humanness as much as your inner spiritual self.
“There is some kind of a sweet innocence in being human- in not having to be just happy or just sad- in the nature of being able to be both broken and whole, at the same time.”
- C. Joybell C
Please feel free to pen some words in the comments box below if you’d like to share your own thoughts and insights on how you embrace your own humanness…